Hate vs. Indifference {Question #3}

Welcome to the series where I answer open ended questions from a quiz I found on Tumblr. They are a great opportunity for me to share bits and pieces about myself on the blog.

Today's question is:

Is there anyone close to you that you know you can't trust?

There was a situation not too long ago with a person who was a friend of mine who I always knew I shouldn’t trust, but still did. That situation spiraled completely out of control, and ended up very badly for a number of people. That person and I are no longer friends.

Since then, I try to be more careful about who I’m friends with. I don’t want to end up in a situation like that again. There are people I wouldn’t tell my deepest secrets to, of course, but all the people closest to me are people I trust.

Recently, I saw someone online say “Hate is too strong an emotion to waste on those you don’t like.” At first it made me mad, because I knew that person was trying to invalidate someone who said they hated them, but then I thought about it a little more. There is a very, very small number of people who I would say I legitimately hate. And the reason I hate those people is that I did like them once. I liked them, and they screwed me over, and made me hate them.

So I completely agree. Hate IS too strong an emotion for those you don’t like. Most of the time, my negative response to someone is just indifference. It’s only hate because I liked them once.

Sorry, that was kind of a tangent. To answer the actual question, there are some people close to me that I wouldn’t trust with certain information, but I try not to be close to people who I really can’t trust. 

Best Friends {Question #2}

Welcome to the series where I answer open ended questions from a quiz I found on Tumblr. They are a great opportunity for me to share bits and pieces about myself on the blog.

Today's question is:

What makes someone a best friend?

There are a couple of people who I would say were my “best friend” at different points in my life. One of them, who was my best friend from about ages 9-13, drifted out of my life until one day I realized I hadn’t talked to her in almost a year. When she was my best friend, it was honestly mostly because there was nobody else. She lived close to me, her dad was friends with my dad, and she was basically the only other girl my age that I knew. We were very different people, but we did a lot of stuff together, and had a lot of fun. She pushed me out of my comfort zone a lot, and as it turned out, that was often a good thing.

The girl who I would now call my best friend just faded into that role. One day, she introduced me to someone at school as her best friend, and I thought “Oh, yeah, I guess that’s right.” Unlike with M, L and I have a ton in common. We’re both huge readers, we have all the same friends, lots of similar interests, out parents are super similar, and we’ve had a lot of new experiences together. There have been periods of time where we don’t talk all that often. We both have other friends, who we actually spend more time with, and talk to more. But I think we’re still best friends because when I show up at her house, I feel like part of the family, and when one of us gets asked out on a date, the other will be the first (and maybe only) person to know.

Age is Relative {Question #1)

While browsing on Tumblr, I stumbled onto the F*** Yeah Surveys blog, which is just a collection of awesome surveys to do. I found this one that had a really great selection of questions, and I realized that most of these could be full blog posts of their own.

So that's what I'm going to do. These should be fun to answer, and these posts should be easy to write. Some of the answers will be short, others longer. I'll try to make sure they are all at least 500 words, just to make things interesting. There are 100 of these total, and I'll try to do most of them over the next few months, though I'll probably end up skipping some.

Today we're starting with the question:

1.    Are you young at heart, or an old soul?

Well, I kind of don't like this question, because we all are the age we are, but the experiences we have shape the way we react to situations, which is what I assume this question is talking about. My friends would probably say "old soul" simply because I'm always the one saying, "Uh, guys, don't you think this is a bad idea?" and being the 'responsible one.'

But also, I don't put a ton of value on a lot of the stuff that is part of youth culture. I haven't had a lot of the stereotypical teen experiences, and I don't really care. I'm happy with the person I am, and I don't care all that much that I've never gone to prom or homecoming, or that I won't have a typical high school graduation, or that my parents and younger siblings are at basically every party I go to. I really don't care.

I don't know if that really answers the question, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that I don't feel the need to party and live it up right now. I want to go to college, not to drink, but to study, and being on the path to having a successful, fulfilling career is more important to me right now than meeting guys and being a traditional 17 year old.

That's not to say that I don't value having fun, I certainly do. I just know where my priorities lie.

I don't know if this was what this question was supposed to mean, but what the heck. This was fun. :P